|The Beautiful Wife: Focused on Christ, Fulfilled in Marriage
By Sandy Ralya / Kregel Publications
Title of Book: The Beautiful Wife
Author: Sandy Ralya
Title of Book: The Beautiful Wife, Prayer Journal
Author: Sandy Ralya
Title of Book: The Beautiful Wife, Mentor’s Guide
Author: Sandy Ralya
Publisher: Kregel Publications
Publication Date: 2012
Reviewer: Dell Smith Klein
ABOUT THE BOOK:
When Sandy Ralya’s marriage was in trouble, she was desperate for help but didn’t know how to ask for it. Everyone else’s marriage seemed so perfect. How could she admit hers was not?
Sandy eventually sought guidance from godly mentors and Christian counselors. What she learned transformed her life…and then her marriage. Now, she wants to provide other wives with the same nurturing and mentoring that saved her relationship.
Whether your marital struggles are few or many, The Beautiful Wife offers biblical principles, practical tips, and inspiring stories to guide and encourage you as you look for God’s best in your marriage. Use this book along with The Beautiful Wife Prayer Journal or use The Beautiful Wife Mentor’s Guide to lead other women through a study of the book. Visit www.beautifulwomanhood.com to find all the tools you need to streghten your marriage as you build godly, and supportive relationships with other wives.
“When women share with each other the details of their journeys with God as wives,” writes Sandy, “It’s a beautiful thing indeed.”
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Sandy Rayla, the founder and director of Beautiful Womanhood, a marriage mentoring ministry, is a sought-after speaker. She presents Beautiful Womanhood Seminar to hundreds of women each year. She and her husband Tom have been married since 1980. You can find out more about her from www.beautifulwomanhood.com.
Three books showed up at my door the other day The Beautiful Wife, The Beautiful Wife Prayer Journal and The Beautiful Wife Mentor’s Guide. I’ve reviewed these three books for you.
The Beautiful Wife, by Sandy Rayla will make a fabulous topic-study for a group of young married women, or for women who have been married for a while.
The Table of Contents:
1. Equipping for the Journey
2. Attending to Self-Care
3. Living as the Genuine Article
4. Cultivating Mystique
5. Inviting Romance
6. Thinking Differently About Sex
7. Opening Lines of Communication
8. Speaking Truth in Love
9. Managing Money
10. Creating a Culture of Beauty
11. Professionalizing the Roles of Wife and Mother
12. Choosing God’s Best
Each chapter is followed by a “Reflection” where the reader can ponder the points of the chapter and by “First Steps” where the reader can take steps to identify and change certain behaviors, when necessary. For example: following Chapter 5 “Inviting Romance,” the reader is asked, “What self-doubt has your husband voiced? How can you express your confidence in him and boost his confidence in himself?” Another example from Chapter 9 “Managing Money,” the reader is told to, “Track your spending for a week (every cent!) and then examine your list.”
As I read through the book, I didn’t take time to do other than read the Reflection and First Steps, but I can see how beneficial they can be. And to be able to discuss some of these with women whom I trust would make a difference, too.
Here’s an example that connected with me from Chapter 7, “Opening Lines of Communication.” Scenario: Sandy’s husband had purchased a convertible. It could be described as his dream car. Riding in the vehicle caused Sandy pain in her back, neck and hips. She threw out subtle hints, but her husband Tom didn’t catch a single one. Here’s what she suggests on page 128.
“Ask for what you want.
Let us be clear on this one: Suble hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just say it!”
The Beautiful Wife Prayer Journal, is a place to journal all you learn as you work through The Beautiful Wife. I’m looking forward to working through chapter by chapter of The Beautiful Wife, and have the opportunity to work through this prayer journal. Just reading through the comments, suggestions and ideas that Sandy Ralya gives is helpful.
The Beautiful Wife Mentor’s Guide is about 80 pages, filled to the brim with instructions, help and good ways to use The Beautiful Wife. Anyone who plans to lead a workshop or topic study using Sandy Ralya’s The Beautiful Wife, will also want a copy of this Mentor’s Guide.
I recommend The Beautiful Wife, as a book to work through alone, or with a group of friends. Also, I recommend The Beautiful Wife Prayer Journal and The Beautiful Wife Mentor’s Guide. This trio of books will find a place on your library shelf and in your hands for years to come.